Saturday was a beautiful day for the beach, the kids and I packed up all our goodies and settled into a perfect spot in the sun. Seated beside me are 4 women, maybe a mom, daughter and 2 aunts? The assumed daughter is the youngest of the group, perhaps early 30's. As the kids and I are building a sand castle, I can't help but over hear the daughter talk about online dating. I pretend to focus on the kids' super important sand castle but my complete attention is focused on eavesdropping on this girl.
Online dating is the worst, there are so many creepy guys on there and I don't think it's possible to meet any normal, healthy men on the internet. The last guy I was talking to sent me a message asking me if I wanted a cat. I told him no and he sent me a message back saying he would come over and feed it everyday, without a shirt on so I could enjoy the view of his 6 pack.
The 2 aunts both laughed and I smiled on the inside feeling connected to her dating misery, but mom being a good and perfect mom got mad that someone would talk to her daughter like this and popped back with -
You tell him that if he tries to show up without a shirt on I will shoot him with my BB gun!
I actually had to bite my lip to keep from laughing or they would realize that I was totally listening to them. I am not sure what kind of damage mom could do with her BB gun or really why she would have one!
As funny as this exchange was, it did make me think about how different dating is now versus in the past. Since I am not that old, when I say past I am referring to even just 10 years ago. Both men and women act in ways that make me uncomfortable so I can only imagine how mom felt and why she was threatening to bust out her BB gun! The gender roles have gotten so blurred that men don't act gentlemanly, they feel they can get away with crude inappropriate behavior because with so many women, they can. Conversely, women try to "slut" it up in order to keep up with what other women are doing. I remember a quote that was posted by a friend on Facebook, "If males would stand up and be men then more women would sit down and be ladies." I, for one want my man to stand up and I want to sit down! (Of course this is when I get a man!)
I guess I am old fashioned, I want someone who gives good woo, call me, bring me flowers, open the door for me. Not send me naughty messages before I even meet them telling me that they will take their shirt off so I can enjoy the view. I may enjoy the view, but I want to enjoy it once we have gotten to know each other. . .and not before!
I know this post is not really about me and my dating, but it made me feel happy inside that this poor girl at the beach is going through the exact same dating misery that I am!
Au Revior!
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