Ta da. . .there is my cell telling me that I have a new text. I glance down and do not recognize the number. I click the message open and see –
Hi Annie, it’s Travis.
Ugh. . .my heart sinks and I feel like I am going to throw up! As soon as Travis and I were over, I deleted him from my phone and his number from my memory. But here he is. . .texting me.
Then it hits me. . .this isn’t Old Travis. It is New Travis ie Thunderbird222 from online. Suddenly with that realization I am so disappointed that it wasn’t Old Travis. But I pull it together and bust out a text response and there begins my time dating New Travis. It started off with a lot of texting. . . although New Travis was my age, he seemed so much younger and definitely a guy without responsibility. . . in other words, no kids!
After numerous texts, we finally planned a lunch date at Miller’s Ale House for the next day. That morning I started getting these texts
Are you getting ready for our date?
Can’t wait to meet you. . . muah!
Muah? I don’t know what that means, so I race to my computer and google it. I am so not down with the text world and I feel like I am talking to an 18 year old! Google pops up –
MUAH – text for a kiss, the sound of a kiss.
What!?! We haven’t even met yet but he is already text kissing me? Hmm. . .starting to wonder about this date. One usually assumes that it is the girl who is actively seeking a relationship because guys would lose their “man cards” if they became vulnerable and said they wanted a relationship. Or, gasp even worse if they said they wanted to get married. I for one am caught off guard if a man shows too much interest in me too soon. It makes me immediately think they are a crazy stalker. . .oh if only I had listened to my gut! But I push those thoughts out of my head because I don’t want to ruin my first date and who knows, he could be fabulous.
I arrive at Miller’s first and wait for him outside, when I see him walking toward me, I am pleased that he looks good and true to his description.
Can’t even begin to tell you how awesome this date was. . . we talked about everything and laughed about everything. He told me all about being an architect, showed me pictures of houses and buildings he has designed, about his family in Illinois and past relationships, horror stories in dating. . . he made me laugh. In turn I told him about my life, my job, my kids and of course my horror stories in dating. . .I made him laugh.
When our 2 hour lunch was over, I was smitten and optimistic about dating him. He walked me to my car and gave me a hug goodbye. I drove home with a smile on my face and flying on cloud nine! It was so fun. . .this is why people love dating! I did have a bit of a hang up with his name, but I could get over that!
Ta-da. . .here it is, the text telling me that he had a great time and couldn’t wait to see me again. Sometimes I like to stall looking at a text because I don’t want to reply right away and seem too eager. But this time, I grabbed the phone and saw –
So gorgeous in person. . .wow
YES!!! He had as good of a time as I did! Oh, I haven’t had this feeling in so long. . . when you meet someone you actually like and want to see again. Ta-da. . another text. . .
I miss u bad. . .can I come back?
Um, what? I don’t get it. . . you miss me? Now, I am usually not one to want to play the “rules” game of dating, but telling me you miss me after one lunch is a bit too much for me! Ta-da. . .
Cnt stop thinkin about you. . . hmmmmm. Can I c u tonight? Ill bring me and my lips and great personality.
Whoa! This is just too much. Where did the cute, charming guy go? Why has he been replaced with this overbearing, clingy guy? I found myself yelling at the phone. . . “wait . . . bring back the other guy!” Perhaps the people in the cars next to me thought I was a bit crazy, but I was so confused!
The rest of the afternoon progressed quietly. Travis and I talked that night but he seemed a little different. Not the funny, charming dialogue from lunch, instead it was replaced with a lot of junk –
Did you miss me today?
Do you want to see me?
I can’t wait to see you again.
Blah, blah, blah. . .(Ok, I am sure there were real words. . .but they all sounded the same to me!)
These are things I would say to my boyfriend or husband. Not to a guy following a first date. . .I didn’t really enjoy our conversation too much so I ended it as early as I could. I went to bed a little deflated, my high from lunch was gone and replaced with a pity party. I still couldn’t understand what happened with Old Travis and I don’t understand why I am having so much difficulty dating. I have managed to cross the spectrum of the best of dating to the worst of dating in one day with one date!
I woke up the next day with a text waiting for me -
Good morning baby. . . you should come cuddle w ur man
And. . .there it is. . . the end for me with New Travis! I just couldn’t move that fast, I was dating because I wanted to see what was out there and help me feel good about myself following Old Travis. But I wasn’t ready to jump into a relationship with a needy guy who thought we were a couple after one lunch! Just couldn’t do it!
So . . maybe this experience showed me that I am not as ready for the dating world as I like to tell myself I am. Maybe I should let my heart heal more before agreeing to any more dates. . . or maybe if New Travis hadn’t been such a clingon, we could have been very happy together! Yes, let’s go ahead and blame him for this and push any of the blame off of me!
TTFN
(had to google what that meant too!)
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